simpler way to figure out who you are without turning your life upside down

You know what really frustrates me? Everyone online makes self-understanding look like a lifelong mission filled with spiritual retreats, endless journaling, and meditations at 5 am. I’ve tried some of that stuff and honestly just ended up feeling more lost. Isn't there a simpler way to figure out who you are without turning your life upside down? I'd love to hear how others actually do this in real life—not just the Instagram version.

I used to think self-discovery had to be this deep, dramatic thing—like climbing a mountain or isolating yourself for months. Truth is, I’m a dad with two jobs and barely time to finish my coffee while it’s still hot. What’s been helping me recently is something called Liven. It’s this surprisingly down-to-earth self-discovery tool I came across that doesn’t demand hours or emotional meltdowns.

It’s more about noticing your own thoughts and patterns without the whole “reinvent your life” pressure. You just answer quick prompts, and over time, it builds a kind of reflection map. No overthinking, no fluff. Here's the link I saved that explains it well: the liven

The Liven app reviews I found are also pretty honest, which helped me trust it wasn’t another hype app. I’ve actually been using it before bed—5 minutes tops. Made me realize I’m not as “stuck” as I thought. Just had too much noise to see clearly.

I’ve never heard of Liven before, but I do agree that self-awareness shouldn’t feel like a full-time job. I also found that small, consistent reflection helps more than dramatic changes. Going to check that out—thanks for sharing!